| Location | Halifax |
| Age | 7 years |
| Cause of Death | Road Traffic Collision |
| Date of Birth | 22/09/1989 |
| Date of Death | 25/08/1997 |
| Visitors | 10,113 since 19/12/2007 |
| Creator |
ben was knoked down and killed by a double deker bus while he was riding is bike what he only had
two days he was on live support for four days the doctors said were the bus had hit him on his head
he had a fractured skull bleeding a clot and some brain damage but thay didnt no how much but one
doctor give us hope he was a strong lad he would pull throw but on the 25 of august at half past one
in the morning is little heart had stopped his dad was with him as a nurse had told me to have a
rest in anouther room as i hadent had much rest also i was exspecting a new baby when i went into
the room there were a lot of doctors and nurses around him but one nurse said to me ben was holding
on untill i wasent there becouse he know how upset i would be thay did lots of tests on him then a
nurse called jane who we got to know very well she was lovely came to us by then a lot of our family
were there and i know by her face it wasent good news she told us that ben was brain dead and there
was nothing els thay could do could thay have our permision to switch of is life support i think it
is the hardist thing a parent as to do me and is dad held ben untill the angels came down for him it
was is brother and sisters birthday that day it is a day i can never forget sadly gareth whos
birthday it was went to be with ben 22 months after i realy think gareth is looking after ben a part
of me went with them the day god took them home i will always love and miss you both love your heart
broken mom xxxxxxxx
IM MISSING YOU SO MUCH BEN A PART OF ME WENT WITH YOU THE DAY YOU FELL ASLEEP I WILL LOVE YOU ALWAYS
HOPE YOU ARE BEEN GOOD FOR GARETH AND GRANDMA FOR ME I MISS YOU ALL SO MUCH LOVE MOM XXXXXXXX
PLEASE READ
IM SO SORRY THAT I HAVE NOT BEEN ON SITE FOR THE LAST FEW DAYS BUT IM NOT FEELING TO WELL WITH IT
BEING MY MOMS ANGEL DAY LAST THURSDAY AND BENS BIRTHDAY PLEASE DONT THINK I HAVE FORGOT ANY OF YOU
MY FRIENDS OR YOUR ANGELS I JUST CARNT COPE AT THE MOMENT AND THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR BEING THERE FOR
MY MOM GARETH AND BEN ITS NICE TO NO THAY ARE NOT LEFT ON THERE OWN GOD BLESS YOU ALL ALWAYS IM
SENDING ALL MY LOVE ALWAYS ALISON XXXXXX
HI BEN
I DONT NO REALLY HOW TO START BUT I MISS YOU SO MUCH I ONLY WISH I COULD HAVE ONE DAY WITH YOU AND
TELL YOU HOW MUCH I LOVE YOU I NEVER GOT THE CHANCE WHEN YOU HAD YOUR ACCIDENT NO ONE WOULD LET ME
NEAR YOU IN THE ROAD WHEN YOU WAS AWAKE I WANTED TO TELL YOU SO MUCH BUT I NEVER GOT THE CHANCE
PEOPLE THOUGHT THAY WAS DOING GOOD KEEPING YOU AWAY FROM ME WHY I WAS YOUR MOMMY AND I WANTERD TO
MAKE YOU BETTER IV BOUGHT YOU SOME LOVELY FLOWERS FOR YOUR GRAVE I HOPE YOU LIKE THEM IV MISSED
BEYING YOU PRESENTS ON YOUR BIRTHDAYS AND WHY DID GARETH GO AND DO WHAT HE DID AND LEAVE ME I HOPE
HES LOOKING AFTER YOU WITH GRANDMA THERES NEVER A DAY WHEN I NEVER THINK ABOUT YOU ALL I ONLY WISH I
COULD TURN BACK TIME ANYWAY BEN HAPPY BIRTHDAY AND I HOPE IT IS SPECIAL ONE IM SENDING LOADS OF LOVE
AND HUGS UP TO YOU TODAY LOVE ALWAYS MOMMY XXXXXXXXXX
Thinking of you
Hiya Alison,
I hope you are ok and your weekend went ok. Thankyou for the tributes on Masons site they are beautiful, I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you and you are in my heart every day.
My love to you and Thankyou again Alison,
Karen xxxxxxxxxxxx
P.S How you getting on with msn
so sorry
I have just come across Bens site and i want to say how sorry i am, such a lovely little boy, Heaven must be the best place, so many beautiful angels residing there, my best wishes go to and your familyxx
Been thinking of you
Alison I'm sorry I havent been lighting candles for Ben but my computer broke and I have been unable to get online for a week, This has made me feel terribly guilty as I know how much it means to have someone light a candle for your precious angel but I can assure you that you have been on my mind and in my heart during this time, I have told Mason to explain to Ben for me and I have sent him loads and loads of hugs and kisses to make up for last week.
Thankyou for your letter on Masons site and I do understand how you feel when you say that people have moved on with their life, some people seem to think that you will move on and get over it, because as they say life goes on, well this is not really true as you know, how can anyone get over the loss of a precious child and move on with their life, they cant, the pain is always there and it will never go and only someone who has lost a child can really understand and know how you feel. I have not lost my child, my daughter Stacie (Masons Mommy) is still with me but I have lost my grandchild and watching her go through the loss of her precious baby is unbearable because I just want to take her pain away but I cant and it hurts me so much. Stacie has told me that she wants to die so she can be a proper mommy to her son and to have to listen to my daughter say this breaks my heart.You have lost 2 precious children Alison and I honastly dont know how you have got through it, your tributes to both your sons are beautiful and so are your sons be proud Alison that you are their mother and always will be. I hope mothers day wasnt too bad for you,SORRY thats a stupid thing to say its must of been terrible for you, I know ours was awful.
My love and thoughts are with you Alison and if you ever want to chat about anything at all you can email me, I cant take your pain away but I'm a good listener,my addy is karen_henderson@hotmail.co.uk
All my love Karen xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
goodnight
I cant reach out to comfort you or hold
your tiny hand, the precious dreams i
held cant be fulfilled the way i planned.
Sometimes i say a little prayer in hope
perhaps i might have one last chance
to tuck you in before i say goodnight.
To much i would have shared with you
but as we had to part theres just an
empty silence ehoes in my broken heart.
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♥ღ♥ Gone Only To Others by Ann Holloway ♥ღ♥
Others, who do not know,
Tiptoe around your name
Unaware that your name is silently
Written on my heart, my soul, my life
And inwardly I cry out to hear it spoken.
Others who do not know
Think of you as only in the past
And believe
That you only exist in my past too
Not understanding that you are
Past, Present, Future.
Others, who do not know,
Feel you as gone,
And fail to see the reality of you
Never being ‘truly’ gone from me.
The empty void of your absence
Is filled with your presence,
Your life will forever weave through mine
The divine bond cannot be severed.
Others who do not know,
Mistakenly may think that my love has been
Weakened by separation,
Feelings ceased,
Not so.
Entwined and strengthened
My love for you lives on
And has not died with death.
But you know all this,
If only others knew.
the miracle of friendship
when I've had one of those days
you know what I mean
so I sit back and relax
and turn on my screen.
I'll talk to my friend
who know just what to say
to make my stresses go
and my troubles fade away.
My friend you're always there for me
whenever I feel blue
and though we've never met before
I know our friendship its true.
And although we haven't been friends for long
in this short time it seems
we shared so many things already
our hopes, our fears.
We come from different walks of life
but we share a common bond
So friend thanks for being there
whenever I've needed you
I know you're always there for me
and you know we are there for you.
love always henry~henry jur
God made a wonderful mother,
A mother who never grows old;
He made her smile of the sunshine,
And He moulded her heart of pure gold;
In her eyes He placed bright shining stars,
In her cheeks fair roses you see;
God made a wonderful mother,
And He gave that dear mother to me.
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happy mothers day alison x
♥ MY FRIEND ♥
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♥Though I may never meet you ♥
And our paths may never cross ♥
I know that what we have ♥
Shall never ever be lost ♥
♥ So once again I say to you ♥
And hear the words I write ♥
You're in my thoughts and prayers ♥
Each day and every night ♥
♥ Thank you for all you have done ♥
you didn’t have to do it ♥
I’m glad someone like you ♥
could help me get through it ♥
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They think I'm fine and over it.
By Lyndie Sorenson
They think I'm fine and over it
Accepted that you died
But I live life with all this pain
And countless tears I've cried
I am forced to live with endless pain
That others can't accept
They think I'm fine and over it
Or that I'll soon forget
I want to scream from rooftops
Or silently just cry
I never will be over it
My God my child died!
It makes no sense to argue
My energy is low
So when they think I'm over it
I simply tell them No
I've become what they have wanted
A turtle in it's shell
Just keep my thought within myself
And never ever tell
I mask my life to others
To myself as well
For living every day on Earth
Is surely more like Hell
Simply put I won't get over it
Not better...stronger... fine
It is only that I've had no choice...
To live this life of mine
Thinking of you
Alison,
I just wanted to thankyou for all the tributes you have left for my grandson Mason, it really is a comfort to read them and I'm amazed at how many friends I have made on this site,sadly though all in terrible curcumstances. To lose a child is so devastating and painful to a family, I have myself not lost my child but I have lost my grandson and feel as though I have lost my daughter as I dont think she will ever be the same again. You have lost 2 precious children and your pain must be unbearable and I'm so sorry for you Alison, my thoughts are with you and I'm sure your 2 boys are together in their special place, safe and free from any pain.
Love and best wishes to you Karen
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